CLICK HERE FOR THOUSANDS OF FREE BLOGGER TEMPLATES »

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

Demons

 The demons are winning. I've lost all my coping mechanisms. I can't workout. I can't run. I can't even walk in the woods on a flat trail. I am disconnected. I am tormented. I want to be alone while feeling unbearably lonely. 

I tried meditation, and when the guide allows for a thought break, Amy Lee's voice screams "I want to die" and proceeds to sing the chorus of "Tourniquet." 

I cannot focus. I can't work effectively. I wish I'd died as a teenager, so that I would not have had to live with myself.

Monday, May 22, 2017

An original poem that no one will read.


I See You

R. Gaudreau 5/22/17

 
I see you
I see your worth and your perseverance
I see your beauty and your kindness
I see your strength

I see me
I see my flaws and my impatience
I see the blemishes and the hurtful words
I see weakness

I try my best to lift you up in your dark times
In the quiet of night I tear myself apart
I encourage you to see what I see in you
Discouraged that I can’t believe it for myself
 
 I see you through the lens of clarity
The lens of criticism clouds my reflection
Are we all the same?
Or am I so different?

You see me
You see my value and determination
You see me as attractive and intelligent
You see character
 
You see me.
How do you perceive yourself?
I see you in light.
Unable to escape my darkness.
 
 

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

A raw description of the internal workings of Becky


A raw description of the internal workings of Becky. Almost stream of consciousness. Written in less than five minutes.

Feel but don’t feel. The conundrum that my subconscious struggles with on a moment by moment basis. I tend to feel very deeply. If I allow my brain to process everyday feelings, I will be gutted by insecurity, rocked to the core by sadness, over the moon with joy, and overwhelmed by love every single day. So there is a constant restraint going on. A constant monitoring of feeling and sensing, and a tightening of the reigns to hold it all in. I’m an all or nothing person. Go big or go home. All feelings or no feelings. There’s no intermediate position. When the door cracks open the flood of feels breaks it off its hinges. When the door shuts it’s like a steel bulkhead on a submarine that contains water to a compartment.

Many times, the result by appearances is of someone who does not feel. Like I don’t care what impacts my words or actions have. That I can’t empathize with the feelings of others. And thus one becomes a seemingly callous individual that feels deeper than anyone would ever guess. Which of course adds to what I will call “the battle of the feels.” If I allow myself to love deeply, then I can be hurt deeply. If I allow myself to be invested in the feelings of another, I open myself up to their pain and risk the potential backlash of their own internal battle that would allow them to drop me like a hot rock in an intensely hot summer day. If I close the doors, life is easier. But is it really? Because when the doors close, that’s when I hurt others. Often times I don’t even realize I’m hurting them. But I shut them out in the same way that I fear I would be shut out. And then when the doors open I process what pain I may have caused others and am crushed by the internal pain of it myself.

Sometimes I wonder if everyone is the same way? Am I no different than everyone else, even if I feel I am? I often think that I feel deeper than others. Perhaps my extremes are simply more pronounced by the absence of the intermediary. Perhaps we are all the same. Perhaps we are not. Who can know if we are all living at some level of restrained being. I’m afraid to just be.  Failure, insecurity, and lack of confidence have been an overwhelmingly stronger force than strength, hope, and courage have ever been in my history of recollection.

A child throws the battle of feels into overdrive. The intensity of love causes an dramatic increase in the intensity of worry, insecurity, and frustration. Yet an entire days worth of negativity can be melted by the sweetest cuddles and hugs one will ever experience. Which brings in fear – how long will this last? How can I hold on to every single moment? Intense guilt from working since this little bundle was 3 months old. Intense guilt about being absent from any moments outside of work – to exercise, see friends, travel on work trips. Constant guilt. Constantly not good enough. Completely flooded by love.

You see the battle? How can these coexist? It is exhausting. This is me. This has always been me. Is this just the way life is? Void of contentment yet full of love? Constantly second guessing myself and replaying every critical interaction through the “what could I have done differently” or “where did I go wrong” filter? Feeling incredibly deeply, whilst refusing to feel. Cutting off my own arm by slamming the bulkhead down. Allowing the door to reopen and getting blown off my feet. Is there a middle ground? Is this how everyone feels?

OK – time to close the door again. Til next time. May want to invest in a life jacket.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

New Job

My apologies for having not written in quite some time. I've been very busy, what with fixing up the condo, working, planning the wedding, and preparing for my new job. Yep I will be starting a new job this fall. My last day at PB is July 31, 2009. I am pretty much petrified, but I have been awarded a lecturer position at the University of New Hampshire. This fall I will be teaching transportation engineering and BIM (building information modeling). In the spring I will manage senior projects and teach Strengths of Materials. I have always wanted to teach and I am really hoping that I am good at it and that I enjoy it. In the meantime, I am busy busy busy trying to learn the material and figure out how the hell to teach it! LOL.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Wedding Website

Check out our wedding website for a whole bunch of wedding related information!

http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=5266638204684824

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Lucky Update


Just letting you all know that Lucky is settling in nicely! He likes his new bed upstairs with us, and gets so excited in the morning when he hears us move that he jumps up and tries to give us kisses while we are still half asleep. We had our first trip to Vermont this past weekend - Lucky was fairly anxious on the ride up, as with his history I am sure he was afraid we were taking him to be dropped off somewhere. Once we were there a while he did fine and was so excited when we pulled into our driveway coming home that he made tons of cute little noises - he knows where his home is!
He is a great fit for us! He is a very calm laid back dog, who just likes lots of loving. He has been playing more with us but still would rather be petted than play with his tug toy. He loves sitting in the living room looking out our slider. When we get home from work, he sits right up when he sees our cars, and then runs back and forth as we are walking up to the house. He gets so happy to see us! He loves his walks and of course his treats. We are so "lucky" to have him!